I am absolutely sure that this blog makes sense mainly for men who worry about their sex life. However, I also know that the wives and partners of patients with erectile dysfunction also suffer a lot. But what can they do for partners in difficulty and for themselves? Armed with my own knowledge in the field of male health and consulting with fellow psychologists, I give some advice to partners of men taking Viagra and experiencing difficulties in bed.

Does it make sense to behave in a special way with an impotent man?

Well, we have two theories (in fact more, but I will simplify). Proponents of the first believe that it is better to pretend that everything is still fine. Adherents of the second theory try to support an impotent partner and help him in every possible way, and at the same time “work on themselves”. I dare to state that both might fail.

The key to good sex and relationships is utmost honesty. Therefore, in my opinion, portraying orgasms and “not noticing pills in the nightstand” with men taking Viagra does not help at all. On the other hand, excessive concern for the health, erection, and emotional status of a man can only exacerbate the existing problems, especially when impotence has occurred as a result of psychological reasons.

What should not do and think of the partners of men taking Viagra?

What should avoid wives and lovers of men taking Viagra or suffering from erectile dysfunction? First of all, do not blame yourself. In addition, do not dwell on thoughts of possible lovers. Most often, a healthy man can maintain an erection regardless of who exactly he penetrates (unfortunately). If you suspect a partner of cheating and/or blame yourself, this will adversely affect your emotional state, relationships in a couple, and sex, too.

Another tactic, that is, dressing up sexy, constantly seeking for being closer, trying new things in bed, can also lead to nothing. A man taking Viagra or using other methods to improve the quality of erection will most likely not appreciate your efforts. Moreover, with each successive failure, he will feel worse. Obviously, all this badly affects sexual function.

How to really support a partner with erectile dysfunction (and yourself)?

Regardless of whether your partner is taking Viagra or is not yet ready to treat erectile dysfunction, consider the following effective methods:

• First of all, analyze your own emotions. What do you feel? Do not be shy about disappointment, panic, even anger. You may need to talk to your therapist.
• In healthy relationships, just talk to your partner. He might be happy to feel supported and loved.
• Of course, the previous steps are absolutely not enough to solve the problem of impotence itself. Nevertheless, they can help achieve greater intimacy, and sometimes even reduce the degree of erectile dysfunction.
• At the same time, do not focus too much on the problem of impotence. Constant conversations about it with a man taking Viagra can only aggravate an unpleasant situation for both.
• Talk calmly about what each of you can do for each other and for relationships. For example, your partner may need your support in choosing the right treatment.
• In rare cases, when you know that a man suffers from impotence, but manages on his own and does not tell you about it, better adhere to a completely different tactic. Yes, sometimes you can pretend that you do not notice the pills in the nightstand.