Before I share the stories of two of my patients about their sex abstinence, I would like to say one important thing.

Actually, no evidence proves that the lack of an intimate life directly negatively affects health and psychological conditions. In other words, you can live without sex, and compensate the forced absence of it (for example, due to impotence) with physical activity and a healthy lifestyle. However, most men cannot handle it.

On condition of anonymity, two of my patients agreed to talk about the possibility to live without sex.

A., 31 years old, musician and designer, maximum abstinence – 5 years

“I chose abstinence deliberately, particularly because of my fascination with some esoteric practices. In addition, at that moment I just broke up with my girlfriend. I was not required to be celibate. However, unlike many of my friends, I did not believe that a person cannot live without sex.

Over time, I got so used to celibacy that I stopped feeling sexually excited at all. This did not affect my health or my mood in any way. Moreover, I have always been in excellent spirits.

Several years later, I met a girl with whom I fell in love. With her, I again felt the desire. So, I decided to return to intimate life. I must admit that the first times made me feel completely exhausted. Gradually the situation became normal again. Anyway, I can easily return to life without sex anytime.”

W., 35 years old, screenwriter, maximum abstinence – 7 years

“My abstinence has been going on for almost 7 years. I have no partner, no time and no desire to look for someone. Also, before, when I was still trying to date, I always had “incidents” in bed. Either I could not come at all, or, on the contrary, ejaculated too quickly, or had difficulty with an erection. For some reason I did not try the pills.

Finally, I came to a complete lack of sex in my life. However, I have not given up on masturbation. I don’t know, can this be considered sex?

For many years of sex abstinence, I have not noticed any health problems, except for my mood. Not sure if this has anything to do with live without sex. Sometimes I even feel too lazy to go to the gym. Due to the fact that I don’t seem to have to strive for attractiveness, I got a little fat and began to dress too casually.

Actually, I hope that sex will one day come back into my life. Moreover, I am even ready to seek the help of a therapist and start taking pills if needed.”